I have finally seen real China. It's only taken me three years:) I recently was able to go with Courtney and a good friend to her village about 8 hours away from Taiyuan in a neighboring province. It was an eye opening experience. I learned a lot about where my friend is from and the pressures that she has in her life.
It was my first time going to the countryside or a village so I was preparing for the worst. No electricity, no running water, no shower, squatty potty out house, and lots of strange food. Well, it ended up being better then expected and so very interesting. There is no running water but there is electricity. I guess if it was my choice I might choose running water over electricity but then again, it would be a hard choice. Well, I would like to tell you some highlights cuz I don't want to bore you with the details so I'll try to be brief and concise.
We were the first foreigners to visit this village and therefore created quite the stir wherever we went. Our trip to the one vegetable store in the village caused a large following of people. When we visited relatives which was pretty much the whole village people would take turns coming in and chatting with our friend. They would ask the typical questions:
1. How much money do you make?
2. Do you have a boyfriend? Do you want a Chinese boyfriend?
3. Where are you from?
4. Is your hair natural?
5. Are you can Courtney sisters or twins? (you know how all Chinese people look alike apparently all foreigners look alike as well)
Those were the famous questions pretty much in that order. hehe.... People also asked if we missed our families.
The courtyard of there home.
One of my favorite parts of our visit was eating meals together. We became part of the family. It was neat and made me miss my family. I am lacking on the family aspect of life here at my school. Living around a lot of single people who are my own age. We ate all the time. If it wasn't a meal there would be food out for us to eat and the family was always telling us to eat more.
As a girl in a Chinese family when you get married you are not only marrying your husband but his whole family (at least his parents). My friends brothers wife daily makes meals at her husbands parents house. They eat together for at least one meal a day and sometimes more. I could see some problems with this. I would hope that when I got married that I would marry a man with a wonderful mother and father to adopt. Otherwise life could be a little miserable. I did enjoy that they would sit down and eat together. I think that is something that is lacking in America. Families who eat together.
Isn't her family cute!
It was also interesting to see how my friends family looked at her. She must have been very successful in their eyes. She had gone to university and works in another province. She isn't a farmer and probably makes as much in one month as they make in a year. She has gone far. However she has a lot of pressure on her. Specifically to get married. She is 25 and recently broke up with her boyfriend. In the village 20 to 23 is when a girl gets married. I mean that is kind of what a girl is suppose to do. 25 to 27 is the age when you are getting to old to get married or something. So, everyone asked her if she had a boyfriend and when she was going to get married. We met a few matchmakers that apparently match people up. The family again is very important in a match as well as the guys success in life. Kind of interesting.
I always have this feeling that random and unexpected things happen in China normally as regular occurrences which I suppose wouldn't really make them random but...... I'm not sure if this is just because I'm a foreigner or if it is really true. It might be a bit of both. On the morning that we were suppose to leave we were waiting for the bus and my friend got a call. Soon we were walking to a factory getting a tour of the seat belts that they make and sitting in on a three hour interview. The interview comprised of the boss (who had two cell phones which rang the whole time and he answered the whole time) my friends father, and the two foreigner. It was rather amusing. I got a bit board and started worrying about how late we were going to get home being as it took us 8 hours to get to the village. After the three hour interview we were whisked into a nice new Honda accord and driven to the closest town. Then we went to the nicest restaurant in town and met a former employee of the boss and ate with the drivers. It was a nice lunch my favorite dishes being donkey (it was really good, which means I must have been in China to long) and fried steamed bread with sweetened condensed milk:)
This is one of the first steps to making a seat belt:)
From the restaurant we took a comfortable ride all the way back to taiyuan. And it only took about 4 and a half hours. Our driver did drive a little fast on these back roads which were jam packed with large blue scary trucks. Luckily we made it with our lives! It was a great trip and fun to get to be part of my friends world. |